Women go through A LOT the moment they become pregnant. The fact that our bodies are able to carry, nourish, and breathe life to little humans is amazing and definitely worth celebrating. But there’s a dark side that most moms experience – post-partum blues and depression. Their existence remains a myth to most people especially those who have no first-hand encounter.
For moms just like me, we’ve all read about it, we’ve been warned about it by other moms but ‘nung andyan na, sobrang hirap pala talaga. It isn’t just your hormones playing up, it’s like someone grabbed the remote control, muted everything but the cry of your baby and the voices in your head. It’s a constant battle between “Kailangan kong alagaan si baby” and “Ayoko na. Gusto ko na lang umiyak”. I remember crying all the time a week after labor because Zephy couldn’t latch on properly. And when she did, I remember looking for more reasons to cry. It was pre-menstrual syndrome twice over! Thankfully it was just post-partum blues for me and lasted a few weeks. I can’t imagine what it would feel like if this lasted for months and even years just as how moms diagnosed with depression feel.
However only a few people will acknowledge the fact that it exists despite scientific evidence that proves it. In the Philippines, women who experience baby blues and post-partum depression are often stigmatised because women are supposed to “feel happy” after giving birth. When they do seek help, their concerns are usually brushed off.
Baby blues isn’t about being “maarte” or just making “papansin”. It’s the feeling of:
⁃ Being alone
⁃ Being helpless
⁃Walang ganang gumawa ng kahit ano
⁃ Palaging umiiyak for no reason
⁃ Parang huminto na ‘yung mundo
And the list of negative thoughts goes on. Fortunately the symptoms do not last long (about 2 weeks) but if they do, these could lead to post-partum depression.
It is important for new moms to know the warning signs of post-partum blues or depression. It would be prudent if the people around you (husband, in laws, family) are made aware of this as well so that when the condition is acknowledged and you seek help, your concerns will not be put to waste. Talk and find a support group that can listen. It is important that you divert your attention to some other things because this helps a lot para mas hindi bumagal ang oras. Most especially, bonding with your little one is probably the most effective you can do to ease the symptoms❤️❤️❤️